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Grief in the Work Place: A Guide to Compassionate Support

When you grieve, you grieve all the time. Sure, grief is personal, but you don't stop being a person at ...

As If the Obvious Loss Were Not Enough, Grief Also Triggers Old Wounds

Last week I talked a little about our triggers and how it's ultimately our responsibility to manage our wounds, but ...

Whose Responsibility Are Our Triggers? And Trying Not to Bump the Bed

If you've been in relationships for a few years, you've probably come to realize that a fight is almost never ...

Why You Should Talk to the Dead: The Power of Continuing Bonds

Freud, who meant well but missed the mark more than once, gave advice to people about dealing with grief that ...

Where in heaven does hope come from? What Brené Brown Says

Is Hope Something We Pull Out of Our . . . Hats? ​Hope is something we need like we need ...

If You Had a Year to Live, What Would You Want People to Say?

In 2020 I was diagnosed with Stage IV pancreatic cancer and told I might have a year to live. In the ...

Will Your Self-Esteem Survive Caregiving? How Having a Plan Can Help

What Does Stephen King have to do with Caregiving?! In Stephen King's "Misery," a famous author named Paul Sheldon is ...

How Can I Care for My Loved One without Making Them Feel Helpless?

Having the Grace to Let Others Serve You If you have never had any experience with caregiving (from either side), ...

Facing Cancer or Grief? A Painful Past May Be a Powerful Advantage

The Relationship Between Happiness and Adversity When "stuff" happens, it usually feels like a setback. However, I've always liked the ...

Dying Is Not Losing : There Are Many Ways to Win

As I watched my cherished friend, Diane, die at the tender age of thirty, I shook my head helplessly. Who ...

Stress Tools: Promoting Emotional Wellness in Cancer & Grief

Dealing with the Extra Trash Sandwich of Stress Whether you are facing cancer, loss, or other adversity, there's a good ...

What Do I Say When Someone Is on Fire? The Social Awkwardness

Fear of Foot-in-Mouth Syndrome​ I think most of us are afraid of putting our foot in our mouth when talking ...

Sympathy vs. Compassion? How to Comfort While Guarding Dignity

Sympathy vs. Compassion​ What is the difference between sympathy and compassion? Is one better than the other? Although sympathy and ...

Someone I Know Has Cancer: What Should I Say?

Oh, the Awkwardness​ I get it. Cancer, like me, can be super awkward. 😆 I know what it's like trying ...
Doctor talking to patient in wheelchair

How Long Do I Have, Doc? Our Misplaced Love of Certainty

What Bites Most​ First of all, I think we can all agree that one of the features of cancer that ...
Sad woman and sad man inside a heart with their eyes closed

When Your Favorite Valentine Is No Longer With You: Remembering a Lost Love

Not the Holiday from Hell ​You might expect for a single woman like myself who has been single all her ...

What Is Your Philosophy of Hope? Finding Peace When Doctors Don’t Agree

The Roller Coaster of Cancer​ Cancer, like many journeys of illness, is a roller coaster. First, the goings on in ...

What Is Hope Management? How Do You Want Others to Talk about Your Health?

What the Heck is "Hope Management"? ​ I know Hope Management sounds like a group of real estate caretakers. Chuckle. (It's ...

Why Do I Feel So Bad? Unwarranted Guilt in the Wake of a Loved One’s Passing

Some Common "Complications" of Ordinary Grief ​I have written to you previously about complicated grief. You may find grief complicated ...

I Feel So Helpless. What Can I Do for My Loved One Drowning in Grief?

What can I DO for my loved one drowning in grief? ​ Last week I talked about complicated grief, now recognized in the ...

What Is Complicated Grief? How Long Is It Normal to Grieve?

What is complicated grief? How long is it normal to grieve? How long should grief last? When should a bereaved ...

How Do I Face the Holidays without My Loved One?

The best holiday presents involve the presence of those who've passed being with us in the present. The holidays can ...
Elisa Everts, phd

Speaker | Author | Educator

Finding Hope in Cancer & Grief

Elisa Everts, phd

Speaker | Author | Educator

Finding Hope in Cancer & Grief

I speak to medical professionals and patients, helping them provide hope when there seems to be none. If you or your organization need someone to help process the difficult topics of cancer and grief, let's set up a complimentary call, 703-656-6691, ee@elisaeverts.com.

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